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I used to think people who were in open relationships were really greedy. They give their love to more than just one person. They trust that the giving of love will multiply love for everyone rather than take away love from one. They give their partner full freedom to explore any and every connection they are presented with so that they can have as much joy and intimacy in their life as possible.

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I now feel I was wrong about the whole open relationships being greedy thing…. I also used to think people who were in an open relationship were immoral- like being intimate with lots of people is bad.

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Because we all know the good or moral thing to do is to save all your physical love for one special person or at least one special person at a time. Now I realize I only thought this way because of religion, culture, and the patriarchy. These all seem really ridiculous, but I want you to think about what makes them different from sexual intimacy. Why is sex and most kissing off limits and seen as bad outside of monogamous relationships for the majority of people in our culture today? Before monogamy, there was community.

You Lexington or a serious relationship to your community in whatever way you could, and in return, you got to share in the bounty of your community. If your community was thriving, so were you. If it was struggling, so were you.

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But out of greed for security, some wanted to know for sure that they would have enough to thrive even if it was at the detriment of the community. Kids used to be a great labor force. If you had a lot of them, you were most likely thriving because boy are they good farmers. Lexington or a serious relationship you were a man with confidence in your ability to reproduce, it would have made sense to want to claim your kids and make sure that their work is going to be profiting you.

Greed for security is solved when you can break away from a community of sharing and build your own solid workforce, which can be done when you can claim your children by agreeing upon sexual monogamy with one partner. Since the destruction of the community, monogamy is all we have to find security in anymore. At least someone can partner up with you and promise to help you out when you need it and vice versa.

Hopefully you can reach some shared goals Lexington or a serious relationship and at the very least, you have someone who has committed to stay by your side no matter how grouchy you get. We hang on to monogamy because we need at least one person to be on our team. Any threat to that could be a serious shot to our ego. We get jealous because we feel like our partner is all we have anymore.

Pair that with this weird idea we have that the person we marry is supposed to be everything for us, our other half.

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They are supposed to meet our emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual needs. Especially not for the physical needs. But how crazy is this?! But we have crazy expectations for romantic partners and I think that makes us crazy sometimes.

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So stop expecting one person to meet all your needs. Accept the fact that we are built for communities and not for exclusive partnerships. Monogamy works for some people most likely people with great support from a community. Opening up a relationship requires a lot of trust and communication, so I would not recommend it to everyone. You all are leading the way to help us understand what it looks like to fully love those around us in a non-possessive way.

Polyamory is not greedy I used to think people who were in open relationships were really greedy. I now feel I was wrong about the whole open relationships being greedy thing… Polyamory is not bad or immoral I also used to think people who were in an open relationship were immoral- like being intimate with lots of people is bad.

Monogamy came about because of greed Before monogamy, there was community. Monogamy makes us feel secure Since the destruction Lexington or a serious relationship the community, monogamy is all we have to find security in anymore. Monogamy can feel like a lot of pressure Pair that with this weird idea we have that the person we marry is supposed to be everything for us, our other half. Considering opening up your relationship?

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